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“Dearly Beloved. . .”

Bride Mildred Tucker, 1925

Bride Mildred Tucker, 1925

Summer is wedding season, and the collections of the Manuscripts & Folklife Archives section of WKU’s Department of Library Special Collections provide evidence of the pomp and circumstance, excitement and humor with which Kentuckians have tied the knot through history.

To begin with, our collection of more than 7,000 Warren County, Kentucky marriage bonds begins in 1797 and is a gold mine for those researching family history.  In addition, many collections of family papers, such as the Margie Helm Collection, contain wedding invitations and announcements.  Other collections document the unusual; for example, a double wedding that took place inside Mammoth Cave in 1879, inaugurating a custom that lasted until 1941.  Photographs, such as Mildred Tucker‘s before her 1925 wedding, are indispensable to the occasion.  In particular, many a local bride proudly posed in a creation made by the celebrated Bowling Green dressmaker Mrs. A. H. (Carrie) Taylor.

And, of course, there are the diaries and letters of both participants and observers recalling the triumphs and tribulations of the big day.  “This is Birdie’s wedding day,” wrote Russellville’s Fannie Morton Bryan on February 27, 1889.  “Lena and Joe Gill and Mot Williams and myself stood up with them.  That is as near married as I ever expect to be.”  (She was right).  Amid a whirlwind of preparations for her February 16, 1926 wedding, Bowling Green’s Mildred Potter and her mother addressed the “burning question” of attire for the men in the party.  “Agonizing” over cutaways or tuxedos, they settled on “gray trousers and cutaways, with spats,” but a stressed-out Mildred “shed a few tears” when a telegram arrived from her fiance in New York that betrayed his misunderstanding of her diktat.

Marriage of Margie Helm's parents, 1888

Marriage of Margie Helm’s parents, 1888

Some enjoy scrutinizing a wedding and judging it against their own ideal.  Writing to his cousin in 1861, Charles Edmunds of Princeton described the curious ceremony of his family’s domestic servant.  “Mother’s house girl Vic was married,” he reported.  “An old negro preacher officiated, and he made the man promise to do a thing I never heard of before. . . he turned to the man and said, ‘Richard Calvert, do you promise to take this woman to be your lawful wife and be unto her a kind, loving and obedient husband’; if I had been his place I would not have agreed to that because I think that if ever I get married, my wife will have to obey me, and not I obey her, but he assented, and the ceremony was performed, and they were made man and wife upon those terms.”

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Flirting With Disaster

Fannie the FlirtThe British diarist Charles Lamb noted that on Valentine’s Day 1830 “the weary two-penny postman sinks beneath a load of delicate embarrassments not his own.”  The valentine card has steadfastly remained a cherished method of communicating one’s amorous affections for others.  The Greeting Card Association estimates that approximately one billion valentine cards will be sent this year, the second largest card-sending holiday of the year behind Christmas.

On of the most cherished valentines in the Manuscripts and Folklife Archives section of the WKU Special Collections Library was sent from an unidentified suitor to Fannie Morton Bryan (1870-1965), an avowed flirt of Russeville, Kentucky.  She often noted her flirting exploits in her diary.  After receiving a lovely pair of sugar tongs from a Mr. Bradshaw in 1889, she wrote:  “I am almost tempted to flirt with him.  O Fan! Fan!  Why can’t you behave yourself.  Why do you want to make the boys suffer so?  I try to help it but it seems second nature with me to make others suffer.  I almost feel as though that was my mission on earth.”

The valentine pictured here was sent to Fannie in 1902, when she was well past the acceptable age for marriage.  An image of a man dangling from a fishing pole line can be seen on the valentine’s right margin, and above it the sender wrote:  “One of the victims.”  The valentine proved apocryphal when it predicted “For flirts, whene’er their beauty fades, Recruit the army of Old Maids!”  Despite Fannie’s prowress as a flirt in her younger days, she died an old maid.  She taught school in Logan County until 1940 and passed away in 1965.  To see a finding aid to the Fannie Morton Bryan Collection click here.

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